Hi and welcome back.
I know there's video all what I would like to focus more on is another lest another seven.
Is No these are the seven minute series of nice because if you want to leave.
Boredom is absolutely imperative that you understand the seven main areas of life in which we need to
bring into violence around.
No you have already been introduced to these seven areas although I have not actually spelt them out
right back at the start of the coarsen section one or two when I introduced you to the Life Balance
questionnaire.
Well these are the seven main areas the seven same areas as what I offer in our book.
We have relationships with our family and social professional relationships.
We've already established that the quality of our life is pretty much sort of determined by the quality
of the relationships that we have with other people relationships and make um are the very network of
life.
When our relationships go well a school well if this area of our life is over balance that doesn't really
matter what else we do we are to really struggle to fume for feldon life and what is true for us is
going to be true for your clients because sometimes people when the lights are out of balance will focus
more on one or two areas.
This is generally what happens.
So the purpose of this exercise is the reason why it's so important is again for you to hold your clients
to account as a life coach.
This is something that you're going to have to get good at.
It can seem a bit intimidating I appreciate that this is about you not being aggressive not being bossy.
It's just more being assertive around.
We know that unless our lives are iowans to living in a balanced way then we're never going to be fulfilled
in all areas which is what we need to feel if we're not felt fundamentally through all of our main life
areas in life and were always going to be there naturally more inclined to focus on what we want.
Half because people are human beings plus gratitudes don't always go together.
The right nine times out of 10 we focus on what we do rather than on what we do.
We therefore foul you and place more importance on us getting what we do have in this can and will often
come at the cost of the things that we do have.
So for example I shared with you in an earlier video with my dad when I was growing up a lot.
I miss my diet.
We're not friends.
We don't have a close relationship unfortunately but that's just never been the case.
You don't mess with you've never heard and this is also going to be true for most people.
But I can only imagine that that was never his intention.
I can only imagine that going back 30 or 40 years ago if you'd said to him you know mr. Ramsey would
you like to go into your 60s and 70s being estranged from your son.
He most likely would have said no I want to have a strong relationship with my son but unfortunately
that would have been illegal for him.
Back then I can only imagine.
But if we don't take action follow through all these sorts of things then they come at the cost of us
for funding our goals.
So you see some people will put their career or money for the relationships that they have.
I would always define that as being misplaced.
The reason that I've put relationships at the top of the list here is because relationships are the
number one priority in my life.
Now you may be thinking well relationships aren't the number one priority in Euros are in Maine.
That's you say that which might be okay.
Maybe fine for you.
But seriously if you don't find the folman through the quality of relationships that your heart and
with the you can find fulfilment through achievement and accomplishment those things are always going
to be fleeting.
They're never going to be long term which means you're going to have to keep on achieving and accomplishing
in order to maintain that same level of performance.
And this is one trap that many people get stuck in in life especially guys guys especially are particularly
bad at this.
Specially in the UK I don't really know what it's like.
Other parts of the world and all guys in Australia can also be really bad at this.
So if you're an as you watch this or you are in the UK and I'm speaking to you I can't really speak
for anywhere else in the world because I'm not really had too much experience but guys in the UK guys
in the show we're all focussed generally more upon their career and what they do on the relationships
that they have which can be detrimental in so many different areas.
Again money finances people have focussed too much money.
Well it's awful.
Money and that means not focussing on a connection.
The cost is quite apparent.
Some people again will focus more on health and fitness which isn't a bad thing.
Your physical body is well this is your vehicle isn't going to get you from it's a b and from B to C
and it's going to get you around from today right until the day that you die.
But again in Scotland in the middle of winter.
It can get pretty cold and you can walk through the High Street in Dunfermline or in Edinburgh which
is near where I live and you see guys walking down a street like Glatt big Belgian biceps little white
tight t shirts shorn off their muscles who have clearly just come from a steroids infused session down
the gym and the health and fitness can sometimes be taken to the extreme.
For many people who prioritize their own physical appearance and how the bloke and how they present
themselves to the world above and beyond how they actually are for the world around this can become
a really distorted and misplaced priority where some people place more priority or a greater value priority
on how they present themselves how they appear opposed to how they are.
There's a great principle in life.
Archer to adopt and into life.
Yes.
Things that look good aren't always good.
No.
When it comes to personal branding I think a shared earlier on.
Maybe I didn't.
In fact to think cadets or sherritt know I was given guidance by by by a marketer that I had once about
personal branding and personal branding.
If you do research online it's all about creating a facade that a social image for yourself and really
didn't people to believe.
Whatever it is that you want them to believe about though that's okay.
If you are presenting this image that's authentic that is a natural genuine representation of yourself.
But if it's not then you being false and you're also being deceitful.
So this is kind of what many people fall into the trap with in health fitness life coaching and physical
training kind of go hand in hand if you think about it physical trainers will train people's physical
bodies as a life coach.
What you're looking to train is people's mindsets with physical trainers look to build up people's biceps.
You're looking to build up people's characters and people's minds.
So people who prioritized building up the Says all their minds are really leavened back to front there's
nothing wrong with huge biceps but mind the mind is what's going to win the other game alright.
The biceps may win the race but the minds.
What's going to keep you going in the long term routine responsibilities again kind of speaks for itself.
Some people though perhaps focus more on money health and fitness.
Career education or even old relationships make sacrifice a routine responsibilities sometimes unknowingly
routine responsibilities or sometimes these things such as paying bills dealing with important letters
for me.
Counsel letters I get courtside.
They come through the post in the brown envelopes and I know whether it's going to be boring and it's
going to demand something from me.
So what do I do with it.
I'll just leave it and they are.
This site comes to mind.
And then I end up with reminders of late fees and all these sorts of things.
It is not because I don't pay our bills it's just because I hate dealing with routine responsibilities.
This is something that I don't particularly enjoy but it's something that we just have to do if we want
to live inside and out and a well-rounded life.
Because bear in mind if we are not in a routine responsibilities well they can come back and bite us
on the arse.
Routine responsibilities Jen generally aren't particularly exciting or interesting so we're therefore
naturally not going to be so inclined to prioritize them on our list to do things routine responsibilities
must take place and must somehow work their way into our short term goals.
It's important that we invest as much time into routine responsibilities as what we do admin paying
bills.
Too often no fulfilling tasks or ever n to do lists and things like that because if we don't then we
can end up absolutely barred and moving forwards.
Which is most likely what your clients are going to come to you with feeling completely overwhelmed
when all the small things just end up catching up with them.
So it's a good thing to not put off until tomorrow.
The things that we can do.
Today and this brings us to giving back.
All right.
Because if you think about our relationships career our money our health our routine responsibilities
is all through with us is our relationships our career our money our health our responsibilities.
I once heard this this interesting term that our life force should be like a water fountain.
And if you think about a water fountains are great.
They look nice.
Water comes in and it goes round and round and round.
But in earth and a water fountain on a hot day or in the summertime that may be the case that some people
come and drink the water fountain.
What happens if there's more water going now than what is coming in.
That's right.
The water phone's going to eventually dry up.
And what's true with water phones is also true for us.
You see if I were life and if you're a kleinsmith life coach and all about them getting then they can
end up getting getting getting under life from the water fountain just end up overflowing which means
so much water goes to waste.
I'm speaking metaphorically here.
So why is so important for all of us to to find is a channel through which we can begin getting back
in a meaningful way that's appropriate and relevant for us.
So in the next section of a story in the next section in the next film you are going to share with you
a really cool project that you can share with your clients is going to help you to bring all of this
into balance.
But no more about that for an eye anyway getting back to you is kind of why you're watching this course.
You're watching this course because you want to make a difference you want to be able to give back in
some way because we fundamentally know that it's through Jeff thing that we find fulfilment in life.
And if you think about it if we are not giving anyone anything then how likely are we then going to
be to fulfil our great life vision to see how all of this completely interconnects.
I hope you do because the last of our seven main areas of life is that our mental or emotional one are
in a wellbeing.
We've looked at this in the earlier section of the course.
When we looked at our beliefs I introduced you to you we understand the word body We're saw where spirit
and body and soul is about bodies about health and fitness.
This has more to do with with Saul giving given back knowing that we're making a difference.
And all the rest of it is kept and determine how alive we are and spur or otherwise because life as
I've already said is all about balance.
So the reason that I share all of this with you is just an introduction to the Workbook that's touched
and the additional material section of this video.
And this is the goal setting workbook because a few venues ago were looked at you were establishing
your greatest life vision which means you can no help your clients to define a greatest life vision
but know what I want you to do is establish a long term goal or a greater vision that you have for each
of these seven life areas because once you've established a vision the greatest vision that you can
possibly have for each of these seven.
My theory is these visions become your long term goals is for this you actually want from me.
I want to be a father that my children want to spend time with.
I want to be a loving husband to my wife I want to be a good friend other people because these things
are going to fundamentally make me successful.
And money but I also understand that what I do is going to determine how much money I able to make because
I want take responsibility former wife from a home that want to be able to provide them nice things
create opportunity for them and others.
So I can't just focus on the relationships and need to bring up a balance.
Obviously my personal health and fitness is paramount.
If I let myself go in just a lifetime eating McDonald's and chocolate that I'm going to get obese or
fat and then going to have less energy to other ways invest into all of these things routine responsibilities
because I have a wife.
These days she takes care of more of the admin side of things which sets me free to focus on all the
bigger longer term goals that I'm far more passionate about pursuing anyway.
But what I'm seeing here is life's all about balance and in order for us to bring our life into balance
it's crucial that we establish these long term goals for each of our seven main life areas.
Saw to this fill you up.
I'm going to encourage you to go fast.
Print off the workbook attached.
What we have done here is there is a branded workbook my all in one.
And then there is separate ungrounded workbook that you can print off that you can recreate and use
in the context of your life and practice.
I saw a hope that all of this is still making sense to you.
This isn't quite as deep as the prior sections I do appreciate.
But we're not finished yet.
I may have one or two more things up my sleeve.
That's all for an ill informed senior again in the next video.